Things falling apart. Losing passion, losing warmth: Keren’s Manifesto.
I recently watched American Horror Story: Murder House. I have great respect for the way the writers, directors, and producers used emotion as a cinematic tool to let the audience know things that weren’t said by the characters.
One thing in Episode 3 stood out to me. The concept of “what was intended to be strong weakening and falling apart.” This was brought out by the couple who had lost passion for one another.
They were once in love, bought a house and planned on having a baby. But the economy went down, life happened and they fell out of love with each other.
They couldn’t leave, because they had put all their money into the house. So, they were stuck, tolerating each other, until they would both be financially able to leave.
Things really fall apart. Things we thought would last forever.
It is a paradox though. Society says; build this, build that, start a family, become a parent. They judge you if you do not take all of these responsibilities on. But who gives you the tools to sustain these responsibilities? No body.
If you do not aspire to take all these things on, you feel ashamed. But also, if you choose to become the perfect individual and be everything that everyone wants you to be, you juggle too much, and hold on so tightly. You lose the reason and essence behind these things.
In trying to be perfect, the goal post keeps changing.
I am not saying it is bad to aspire to have all these things. I am just well aware, that even if I achieve perfection, things fall apart.
There is something deep rooted in human nature that just loves for things to not work out. When people see others trying, they quickly rush to make everything fail. Even in a relationship, one partner is always the weak link.
For things not to fall apart, people need to think in unison with each other. This sis not possible, because every human being has their own mind, and they can change at any minute.
So, building permanently is a deceitful illusion. I have learnt to just become comfortable with picking up the pieces. Now I know that life is a loop of destruction and reconstruction. I have become accustomed to things falling apart. But in this, I have harnessed the seeds of self sufficiency.
People don’t want anything nice or anything good. But that’s okay. I will do what I have to do in this life, and pass on content with the work I’ve done on Earth.
The tools of self sufficiency that breed in solitude are the strongest weapons that mankind can cultivate within himself or herself.
Keren Obara.
Master of Science in Management.
Founder of Keraizen.
