The Art Of Not Trying
How about not trying? Just this once. Just letting it flow, letting it be, letting whatever happen happen. How does that sound?
University for me has indeed been a learning experience. However, one of the stranger things I have observed in others as well as myself is the natural human tendency to obsess over trying, obsess over appearing, but never to become. This can be shown through this generation’s hyper fixation on “hustle culture” and it’s popularization within the media. It is more common and easier to fall in love with the idea, the aesthetic of striving and working towards something, rather than to actually take a step back and see what is actually needed to achieve said thing. I have noticed through my early 20’s that a lot of people hyper fixate on appearing smarter than, better than, or downgrading others, rather than actually picking up a book for once or actively working to actually become greater than. At the end of the day, the people looked down upon end up shining brighter than. And, the fault cannot be pinned onto anybody. Because it is literally one of life’s traps.
In an increasingly lookist/classist society that bases so much on and actually rewards appearances, we all strive to appear as something. But most of us in our teens and early 20’s get stuck in a loop of trying to appear as this or trying to appear as that. We concentrate so much on trying to appear as, rather than actually becoming what we want. So much so, that we literally do the opposite of what would bring us our desired outcome.
Want to appear rich? Spend a lot, buy numerous brands, flash it, chase the bag, get jobs that do not build on your skills but bring in quick money, take part in pyramid schemes, instead of learning about building wealth, accounting, acquiring actually useful skills and cutting unnecessary costs.
Want to appear like you are of worth and on demand? Brag about how many girls want you and the girls you’ve slept with. Make yourself look like someone of low value that any girl can have access to, all she has to do is put on some make up, flash her tits and she’ll have you in a second (yeah that will really make you look of high value!). Definitely do not work on yourself mentally, financially, emotionally, physically, spiritually. Definitely do not take time to grow as a person and actively learn who you are so you can be your authentic self. OR, if you actually do these things, definitely ramble on and blabber about it instead of actually putting in the work. That will really make you look like you’re of high value!
On the other hand, imagine what it would be like to just not try (insert thinking emoji). How freeing it would be to just accept the fact that you’re not that special and no one is really checking for you. How freeing it would be to just let go of everything and everyone (even that really cute boy you have a crush on) and just accept that everything you wish for would come to you at the right time. It would give you a chance to actually focus on more important things. Instead of chasing people and trying to keep in contact, instead of trying to have so many love interests and people you’re talking to, instead of trying to have so many friends, trying to appear this or trying to prove that. Shifting the focus from “trying” to “being”.
