Letting go- of the pressure from others

It is important to let go of things that don’t serve you. Things like people’s judgements, opinions, and unfulfilled needs. People will be mad, uncomfortable, and will even stop talking to you, but you weren’t put in this world to cater to each and everyone’s specific needs- their family/ loved ones should do that (but first, they themselves must do the inner work).

Of course, in interpersonal relations, it’s good to make sure that your loved ones are okay, and fulfilled. But when it comes to random people, they have no right to cast their specific needs and unfulfilled complexes onto you. That is the work of a therapist.

Lesson learnt in my early 20s- Cater for your pack. Everyone else should be catered for my their pack, such that when we meet each other, we meet when we are all be fulfilled emotionally, this prevents demanding for too much energy from people that you barely know, and then getting angry at them for not giving it.

Not every distant/ unavailable person is supposed to be an enemy. Sometimes they are just filling their cup so that when they meet you, they are fully present. If you find yourself bothered by that, do the necessary therapy/ inner work (every body has some level of emotional growth to do).

Additional option: Read a book that either makes you understand your own mind or takes your mind off the topic.